You may find you are stronger than you think and that if you think about it there are probably situations where you were really brave and strong, you just didn't think about it. How you think about what you do and what you have done affects your perception of yourself. Fear is about reinforcing the bad things in your mind not the good ones.
Your Story
We all tell ourselves a story about our fear. If you're afraid that no one will like your writing, you tell yourself a story (in your head) about how you'll fail horribly, people will laugh at you, or even worse, no one will read what you have to say. What’s your story?
Release Control
We want to learn how to control fear. We want predictability, even though it’s impossible to get. Where we don’t have control, we experience fear. But is it possible to ever have control? Even if you can swim, you can drown. A professional guitar player can still make mistakes and butcher a gig. Give up the illusion of control, and you’re free.
Help
Be kind to others. If you’re shy, focus on helping people instead of being self-conscious about how you look or sound when you talk. Flip it on other people and make yourself feel good.
Meaning
We all go through things for a reason. That includes the fears we have. It also includes overcoming fear and learning the lessons that come out of it. This may not be the case 100% of the time, but when I look back at the challenges and fears in my life, I see that more often than not, they delivered exactly the message I needed at that time.
Model
We're not talking about modeling clothes here instead finding someone who had the fear you have, but managed to transcend it. Get in touch with them, ask them how they did it, and see if it could work for you.
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